Relationships can be difficult. Yeah, they’re not easy, and I’ve often told myself that maybe this relationship thing isn’t for me. I mean, you nurture a relationship or a friendship, and it grows into something more meaningful, and then it all falls apart for a variety of reasons, such as incompatibility or simply, “Hey, we’ve fallen out of love with each other,” which can be extremely difficult.
Now, this person is your ex. Maybe you see them, maybe not. Perhaps you work in the same workplace or live in the same neighborhood, and you can’t avoid encountering them. However, at this time, lovers have become strangers, which can be extremely embarrassing. Most of the time, when a relationship ends, one partner wishes it had not ended. I’m not saying that there aren’t couples who believe it’s best for both of them to end their relationship, but they’re usually the exception. There’s always one spouse who wishes things hadn’t ended.
How to make an ex miss you.
Boy, how do you do it? How do you do this?
Number one: I say entirely detach. No ifs, buts, or “Jessica, I can’t do it,” none of that. Completely disconnect. Now, I realize it seems illogical—you’re trying to make them miss you while I’m encouraging you to stay away. Well, you’ve probably heard the expression, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Plus, if you just broke up, they’re either over you or angry with you. Whatever caused your relationship to end is still fresh in their minds, and the last thing you want to do is remind them of the exact reason they broke up with you.
So, as far as possible, distance yourself from her circle. Remove yourself from the locations you both frequently visit. Avoid all of such areas and simply establish some distance. Believe me, it will work miracles. When people separate, each side may require time to recover before returning to establish anything significant, even if that means forming a friendship. So, set that distance and entirely detach. No phone calls, emails, instant chats, or WhatsApp—none of that. If they haven’t already blocked you, I’d recommend unfriending or muting them so they don’t see your posts.
Number two: Become the best version of yourself. From my perspective, the best form of vengeance is success. What did they complain about when they were with you? Were you gaining weight? Perhaps you were insensitive, or you didn’t give them enough attention and were too preoccupied with your pals. Whatever the objections were, that is a wonderful place to begin. Take a look at the issues that led you both here. If you were a habitual cheater, for example, make an effort to improve yourself. Be the best version of yourself and let your actions speak for themselves over time.
This will be important when you reconnect with your ex after allowing them time and space to recover and miss you. Work on yourself. We can all become better versions of ourselves. Change your circle if necessary, and you’ll be astonished at how much better a person you can become with some reflection. Improve yourself.
Number three, I believe you should have a new look. This is partially connected to point 2. Create a new look by growing a beard or shaving it off, braiding your hair, or growing a fro. Whatever it is, update your clothing. These improvements make you feel better about yourself, take your attention off your ex, and give you time to reflect. If you believe the relationship is worthwhile, you will be more likely to return with something new to offer.
Number four: Be truly happy. People can sense when you aren’t truly pleased, so don’t fake it. Find what makes you happy again, what brings you joy (rather than what you used to do with her). Find a new pastime or distraction to bring positivity into your life. When this positivity becomes ingrained in you, it will radiate forth, and those around you will notice.
Number five: Show her that you are fine. Even if you are unhappy and in agony, never express it in front of your ex. Do not give her the joy of seeing you broken. Act normal—let her know you’re fine without her. Trust me, when she sees that, she’ll wonder if she made the correct choice. However, if you continue to mope and cry in front of mutual acquaintances, she will know you are still obsessed with her.
Number Six: Act close to someone else. Give the impression that you’re fine and that others are interested in you. This may trigger something in her thoughts, causing her to reevaluate her decision. People frequently seek what they see others appreciate. If she notices you becoming close to someone else, she may grow envious and question whether she made a mistake.
Number Seven: Ask your mutual friends to submit photos of you. Allow them to show that you are doing well. Life is moving forward for you, and you look fantastic. Make sure these buddies are devoted to you, not to her, or it may backfire. But if done correctly, she will see a new and improved version of you.
Number Eight: Date someone she believes is better than her. Nothing is more agonizing than seeing your ex become a better version of you. Find someone who embodies the traits she appreciated or was envious of. Believe me, she will notice, and it will sting every time she sees you.
I hope these tips were useful.
