What to do when they break up with you: The Power Of Silent Treatment

You thought you’d met the one—the one you’d spend the rest of your life with. But the romance has ended. Breaking up with the person you love is one of the most agonizing experiences you will ever have. Charlie, I understand how you feel. It aches. It hurts like a… Whatever the reason, there is no easy way to deal with it. To be honest, we all have different ways of dealing with the sorrow of breakups. But did you know there’s one thing you can do for yourself to not only help you heal faster, but also to make her question if she did the right decision – and potentially even come running back to you? There is.

It is not uncommon for people to immediately take to social media to discuss their sadness. When a person breaks up with their spouse, the first thing they do is write about it on social media – Facebook, Twitter, etc. Some will opt to pursue their ex and begin stalking them, to the point where their ex will most likely block them on social media and everywhere else. I understand—it stings to be dumped by the person you care about the most. It stings to know you’ll never be with them again. But this film contains a pretty interesting revelation, so keep watching. Don’t blink—I’ve got you covered today. I will be right back.

So, if she recently ended her relationship with you, there are two things you must do immediately for yourself. One is to use the power of silence. The second step is to apply the no-contact rule. In this video, I’ll show you four ways that silence can help you heal after a breakup, as well as how to execute the no-contact rule.

You may be curious as to why silence after a breakup is vital. Now that you and your partner have made the decision to end your relationship, there will be misunderstandings, confusing feelings, hurt, and, of course, rage. It’s reasonable to desire to settle the issues behind your split. After all, the time you spent loving each other was worthwhile, right? By observing silence and the no-contact rule, you give yourself the opportunity to evaluate the issue objectively.

But what exactly do silence and the no-contact rule mean? As the name implies, you will discontinue all communication with your ex and remain silent. Even if you know your ex’s phone number by heart, do not try to call. You remain silent and avoid discussing anything related to your ex. This will give you enough time to deal with the process of breaking up. This is the most difficult aspect of the procedure, but it is also the most important in allowing you to proceed. I agree that it will not be easy, and you will have many temptations to contact your ex, but resist them. Time will put you to the test, but resist the desire to post about your split or try to get your ex’s attention.

When you are injured and confused, you become more vulnerable than usual. You are likely to engage in behaviors that you will later regret. Simply stop and think. Breathe. Consider, “Is this the path I actually want to take?” Yes, you are hurt, but you still care passionately for your ex. But pleading or attempting to contact her will not improve your already strained connection. You might be pushing your ex away.

Is being silent and cutting off all communication the greatest way to get revenge? I believe it may be. If your ex has wounded you so deeply or is attempting to push you away, do you really want to ask them to stay in your life? Do yourself a favor and keep silent. Listen, the best payback you can get is not reacting at all — or at least not telling your ex that you’re upset. Silence provides you room; it allows you to reflect on everything that has transpired, and it is also incredibly beneficial whether you want your ex back or simply want to move on as quickly as possible. Almost everyone will respond to silent treatment since it piques their interest while also making them anxious.

Remember this quote: “Silence is the best answer to someone who doesn’t value your words.”

Here are four ways quiet might help you after a breakup:

1. You’ll have the upper hand. After a breakup, most people will do everything they can to contact their ex-partners. Some even propose that they remain friends while working on their relationship. Please don’t do this to yourself. Don’t give your ex the advantage by expressing how needy you are for their love, care, or attention. Do not do it. You are better than this. If you use the power of silence following a breakup, you will be able to move on more swiftly. Aside from that, the no-contact rule will provide you an advantage, which we’ll discuss briefly. I’ll chat to you about it.

2. Silence becomes louder after a breakup. Go utterly silent—no drunk dialing, no mysterious social media postings or WhatsApp statuses, and no pals checking in on her for you. I mean utter silence—ghosting. This will confuse your ex more than you can imagine.

3. You will have time to consider and reflect. This strategy is not simply intended to make your ex anxious. You are the individual who will gain from this strategy. The power of silence after a breakup will give you time—and that’s all you need. Time cures wounds, and this is true, my brother. It will hurt, but you can get through it. You’re stronger than you realize. If you have time, reflect. Your muddled judgment will eventually vanish, allowing you to think. Use this time to consider your self-worth, self-love, and why some things don’t work out. It’s okay to accept oneself.

4. The tables will turn. Even if your spouse instigated the split, they may not be ready for you to give them the quiet treatment afterward. Even if they never say it aloud or to another person, they will eventually ask themselves, “What’s going on? Why hasn’t my ex called me? Doesn’t my ex value me? So our breakup meant nothing?” Do you comprehend what I am saying? When you go quiet, your ex will have time to think. This will make them question whether you truly loved them. Lost. At times, your ex may even begin to miss you and rethink.

Given all I’ve mentioned, how will you enforce the no-contact rule? I say:

1. Fight the temptation. As I previously stated, calling your ex is the most enticing thing you will confront after the breakup. When your partner decides to terminate the relationship, you want to understand why. You want to know if there is a legitimate explanation, etc. You want to talk to this individual, and no matter how hard you try, you feel compelled to clarify things. Remember that your ex may not see things the same way. You are becoming increasingly desperate, needy, and bothersome to your ex. This may really support their decision to end the relationship. If you want to get back together, it will not happen.

2. Keep things simple, stupid (KISS). There may be times when you and your ex need to chat, such as if you have a kid together or if you want to address shared properties or activities. When you believe you have accomplished the first step, you can continue communication with your ex, but keep it limited. You don’t want feelings to resurface for this individual, right? For example, if your ex asks a question, answer it directly. Don’t start asking how they’re doing or whether you can meet up for lunch or coffee. None of that. It isn’t important. Don’t waste your hard work after coming this far.

3. Treat them just like anyone else. Another step in winning this war is to talk to your ex as if they were a complete stranger. No friendly gestures, no going out of your way, no special favors—none of it. In fact, if you execute this correctly, you will eventually have no discomfort in your heart. That is when you will recognize you have overcome the heartbreak and pain.

4. Be normal. When you run into them, just act normally. It’s a tiny world; perhaps you still live in the same community. If you run into your ex at a party, event, grocery store, or mall, don’t run away. Just speak to them casually. This will demonstrate to them that you are perfectly capable of functioning without them.

Finally, some may still wonder, “Will my ex miss me?” Well, it depends on the situation, but with the silent treatment and the no-contact rule, your ex is more likely to miss you. Memories, experiences, and shared friends will all begin to hold significance at some point. With the quiet treatment you’re providing, your ex will begin to question whether their decision to let you go was truly worthwhile. In any case, if your ex decides to try to win you back, you’ll already be in command of your emotions and the circumstances. That is sufficient for you to make the correct judgment going forward.